October 3, 2008
Learning’s from Sindhutaai Sakpal’s Interview
Organized by ‘BARAKHADI Dil Se’
In a program ‘Pravas atta paryantacha’ (‘Journey till now’).
Her Birth date: 14th November 1948
Her Education: 4th standard failed.
Caught in the disastrous storm of unfortunate moments…
Walking on burning coal called life…
Married at the age of nine…
Physically abused by husband and family when she was nine months pregnant…
She delivered a baby girl unconsciously in injured state in the goat shade…
Started begging for living of her daughter and herself…
Later she got involved in social activities…
She started adopting street children…
Founder of nine organizations…
Got 172 awards…
Mother of 1045 orphan children…
182 son in laws and 36 daughter in laws…
Now taking care of her husband…
But not as a wife, but as a mother…
Sindhutaai Sakpal you can call her Maai…
I witnessed the experience shared by this unbelievable woman today. She is Maai…
‘BARAKHADI Dil Se’ had organized a social event only for Maai. I am so proud about the fact that I am also a part of ‘BARAKHADI Dil Se.’
Event was purely organized to know Maai. To make people understand true meaning of life by listening to her dramatic life experience. To help Maai’s foundations by provoking people to do charity.
All I can say is, I don’t have words to express my feelings. It was unbelievable. She came. She spoke. She made approximately thousand people sitting in front of her, emotionally chocked. Eventually, Maai won our hearts.
I had the privilege to have the best view in the auditorium because I was handling the technical department. I was sitting in the sound box, exactly in front of the stage.
Telling her story with my words is simply her insult, as I am not that good in writing and I am too small compared to her. But while the interview was going on, I took some quick notes of insights, which I got from her life experiences. I would like to share those with people who read my blog.
1. Learn from life. Life is always teaching you something, try to understand, what life wants to make you learn. Learn it and go ahead in life. Life is the best institution in the world. There is no theory only particle. Isn’t it great?
2. Never forget favors done to you by anyone including nature. Always try to pay them back whenever the people who helped you in your tough times, whenever they are in need.
3. Face challenging situations bravely. Let challenges know that you are challenging person. Challenges come in life to test you. Don’t succumb to its pressure. In fact these are the opportunities to prove yourself. So be brave and face them confidently. Boldness has magic, power and genius in it. Be bindaast, confident and courageous.
4. Laugh at your troubles. In the testing times you, instead of getting worried and giving in to destructive emotions, just make fun of it and enjoy it. Do not ever be bothered by the troubles. If you are feeling negative, that means you are reacting. Instead, you have to be proactive and be in control of your mental state.
5. Trust the god he is always there with you. He is watching you. He is taking care of you. He knows, what is good and what is bad for you.
6. Never compromise with your values and the purpose of your work.
7. Inner beauty and hygiene is more important than outer.
8. If some task is looking impossible. Think of bold, strange and unique ideas, to get your work done. And just go for it.
9. Forgive all the people; including those who give you tough times because, those tough times would actually help you to shape your life.
Soon I will be posting documentary made by BARAKHADI DIL SE on her life. Also if you want to see the whole interview of this great woman, you can buy the VCD of the program. Please contact, Ulhas on 98210 33736.
21 November 2008
30 September 2008
Compromise and Confidence
29th September 2008
Today, one of my Future PaathShala students (I call them Future Stars) called me, when I asked her that how is she? She answered, “I am not fine, Atul.” (Huh.. how she can answer like that? After all she is a Future Star!) I asked her about the reason of not being well. She started to tell me the story…
Basically, she is a BE and works for a well-known Indian IT company. One year back she got the job in this company, as a fresher. However, she was always victim of being ill-treated by one of her senior colleague. She always used to feel that why she(her senior colleague) behaves with only her in this way. But there was no other option in front of her rather than respecting her and doing what she can do, related to her work. She was actually waiting for confirmation after one year and a salary hike. She did not get confirmation though she completed her one year satisfactorily due to her senior never appreciated her work. She was very frustrated due to this but I advised her to be clam and concentrate on the work.
Now, finally after one year and some more months she got confirmation letter and a salary hike. But a salary hike, which was much lower than what she expected. Due to this she was totally broken and called me. ‘Atul, I just want to commit suicide!” she shouted. The first thought that came to my mind was, ‘What the hell!’. For no reason people find reason to commit suicide. But then I thought, it must be very important to her, and she might have faced lot of trouble during last one year and so. “Calm down”, I said.
She just started telling me what things she did to do her best in her job. And at the end, what she is getting? Just a confirmation letter and a tiny hike in her salary? That reminded me, two of my other friends, who were also working for MNC for more than a year, and absolutely not satisfied with their growth, and especially with their seniors. I was trying to convince her that this is not the end of everything.
“I am fed up of doing all this, I am fed compromising with my desires, I just want result now! I just want god damn final result.” She was furious. I told her to have patience, and she will get the final result one day.
Again she shouted, “No, I want the final result right now!”
“Well” I said, “and what you want as your final result?” I was really curious to now this answer.
“I want my monthly income to be doubled right now!” she said quiet confidently.
“Oh” I was shocked as I thought she is over optimistic about herself. “You think you deserve this amount as your salary with your current capability?”
“Yes”, she affirmed.
“Do you think your company will offer this package right now?”
“No”, she said, as it was too obvious.
“Do you think that any other company will pay you this much amount, with your current ability and experience?” I knew I was making her think now.
“Ya, why not?” may be she asked this to herself.
“Then why don’t you leave this job and find the job which will pay you what you deserve?” my question was straightforward.
“Do you really feel that I should leave this job?” she asked me quiet skeptically.
“Yes. Only if you want your final result to happen right now!” I delivered a googly to her.
“But I am getting to work on very good project here.. I am not sure weather I will get same kind of project anywhere else?” now a confident young lady sounding confused.
“See, you are changing your final result now. Tell me what exactly you want? You want double salary or you want to work on a very good project?”
“I want both!” she again sounded like, she knows what she exactly wants.
“Ok then, go and find out a job that can fill both the criteria…”
“ummm…”
“You said some time ago that you are absolutely fed of compromising… right?”
“Yesss”
“Then by doing a job which is not fulfilling your expectations, don’t you feel that you are compromising again?”
“Hmm… you are right.” She was thinking.
“Never compromise with your standard then, just start hunting for a new job… no matter if you sit at home for three, four, five or six months, if you believe that you are capable of earning this much money, with your current profile… just go for it!” I made her to think again.
“But don’t you think sitting at home and doing nothing is insensible?” she doubted my opinion.
“Absolutely not, that means you don’t believe yourself and you are already ready to make a compromise and live your life below the standard you deserve. If you really believe that you’re capable of getting your outcome right now, why don’t you just go for it?” I made her believe in herself.
“Yes Atul, you are right. I think I had lack of belief in me. But now I promise you, within next two months I will call you and give you the good news that I am doing job having doubled salary of what I am drawing now!” her voice was full of confidence.
“Superb… that’s really great.” I encouraged her.
“Thank you very much, Atul. Bye.” And she disconnected the line.
Basically, she is a BE and works for a well-known Indian IT company. One year back she got the job in this company, as a fresher. However, she was always victim of being ill-treated by one of her senior colleague. She always used to feel that why she(her senior colleague) behaves with only her in this way. But there was no other option in front of her rather than respecting her and doing what she can do, related to her work. She was actually waiting for confirmation after one year and a salary hike. She did not get confirmation though she completed her one year satisfactorily due to her senior never appreciated her work. She was very frustrated due to this but I advised her to be clam and concentrate on the work.
Now, finally after one year and some more months she got confirmation letter and a salary hike. But a salary hike, which was much lower than what she expected. Due to this she was totally broken and called me. ‘Atul, I just want to commit suicide!” she shouted. The first thought that came to my mind was, ‘What the hell!’. For no reason people find reason to commit suicide. But then I thought, it must be very important to her, and she might have faced lot of trouble during last one year and so. “Calm down”, I said.
She just started telling me what things she did to do her best in her job. And at the end, what she is getting? Just a confirmation letter and a tiny hike in her salary? That reminded me, two of my other friends, who were also working for MNC for more than a year, and absolutely not satisfied with their growth, and especially with their seniors. I was trying to convince her that this is not the end of everything.
“I am fed up of doing all this, I am fed compromising with my desires, I just want result now! I just want god damn final result.” She was furious. I told her to have patience, and she will get the final result one day.
Again she shouted, “No, I want the final result right now!”
“Well” I said, “and what you want as your final result?” I was really curious to now this answer.
“I want my monthly income to be doubled right now!” she said quiet confidently.
“Oh” I was shocked as I thought she is over optimistic about herself. “You think you deserve this amount as your salary with your current capability?”
“Yes”, she affirmed.
“Do you think your company will offer this package right now?”
“No”, she said, as it was too obvious.
“Do you think that any other company will pay you this much amount, with your current ability and experience?” I knew I was making her think now.
“Ya, why not?” may be she asked this to herself.
“Then why don’t you leave this job and find the job which will pay you what you deserve?” my question was straightforward.
“Do you really feel that I should leave this job?” she asked me quiet skeptically.
“Yes. Only if you want your final result to happen right now!” I delivered a googly to her.
“But I am getting to work on very good project here.. I am not sure weather I will get same kind of project anywhere else?” now a confident young lady sounding confused.
“See, you are changing your final result now. Tell me what exactly you want? You want double salary or you want to work on a very good project?”
“I want both!” she again sounded like, she knows what she exactly wants.
“Ok then, go and find out a job that can fill both the criteria…”
“ummm…”
“You said some time ago that you are absolutely fed of compromising… right?”
“Yesss”
“Then by doing a job which is not fulfilling your expectations, don’t you feel that you are compromising again?”
“Hmm… you are right.” She was thinking.
“Never compromise with your standard then, just start hunting for a new job… no matter if you sit at home for three, four, five or six months, if you believe that you are capable of earning this much money, with your current profile… just go for it!” I made her to think again.
“But don’t you think sitting at home and doing nothing is insensible?” she doubted my opinion.
“Absolutely not, that means you don’t believe yourself and you are already ready to make a compromise and live your life below the standard you deserve. If you really believe that you’re capable of getting your outcome right now, why don’t you just go for it?” I made her believe in herself.
“Yes Atul, you are right. I think I had lack of belief in me. But now I promise you, within next two months I will call you and give you the good news that I am doing job having doubled salary of what I am drawing now!” her voice was full of confidence.
“Superb… that’s really great.” I encouraged her.
“Thank you very much, Atul. Bye.” And she disconnected the line.
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